How can I support my bf through alcohol withdrawal?
Friday, September 4th, 2009 at
4:52 am
My bf just got diagnosed with pancreasitis which is the inflammation of the pancreas. The doctor told him, he cannot drink anymore alcohol. He is not an alcoholic, but he does drink regularly. Today he snapped at me on the phone, for no reason. Is this moodiness part of withdrawal? And if so, what can I do to help?
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put him in rehab they can treat him
candy, cigarettes and coffee.
When my man gets snappy, I give him lots of sex! He becomes a different person believe me.
give him milk & cookies
That is tough…but yeah, possibly withdrawal…but it is likely he doesn’t feel very well due to the pancreatitis. Give him a break. Just be there for him.
yes him snapping is part of the withdrawl, he will do this often! just be aware. really the only thing you can do is be there for him, and you know when you see him in a good mood just mention that he snapped at you and you didnt like it and just simply ask him to try not to do it again. but he will have ALOT of mood swings.
It isn’t withdrawal, it is him realizing that he is not in control anymore and he feels helpless. He probably has a pain that is constantly aggravating him and sometimes he snaps because he is frustrating. It most likely has nothing to do with you and just understand that he is going through something rough that you can not understand and you just need to be there for him.
i think if he drinks regularly..
then he is considered an alcoholic..
i also believe that his moodiness is part
of the withdrawl.
to help, you may want to distance
yourself a little more then normal
to give him some time to get used to
this. you could also encourage him
and compliment on how great he’s
doing to stop drinking..
good luck!!
I always think it’s always just as hard for you as it is for him because you two are both experiencing the effect.
Just tell him to be strong. Think of ways to take his mind off of it by doing some fun things. My boyfriend and I took a road trip when he was having family trouble. Just do some research on stuff he enjoys other then booze.
Yes, it is part of withdrawal. You have to bear with him. Also, let him know when he’s upset, if you don’t feel like being around, that you’ll go for a walk, take some personal time, etc., instead of arguing with him, as that’ll create animosity. Next, introduce him to people, and bring people over, THAT DON’T DRINK!!! Those that do, might want to cut back on the association. This is a biggie. The influence is monumental.
If he is going thru withdrawal symptoms, he is an alcoholic. And, sometimes people snap at their loved ones even if they are not going thru withdrawal. It’s called being in a bad mood. But if he is indeed having withdrawal symptoms just be supportive and understanding and give him space. Other than that, You can do nothing to help.
It likely is part of withdrawal, especially if you’ve noticed that it is out of character for him to act like that. Remember also that he just received a pretty serious diagnosis and that tends to affect people’s moods.
Be supportive of him to the extent you can. He’ll need you even though he may not want to admit it.
He sounds like he’s an alcoholic if he’s behaving this way. I think he need some type of counseling if not he will start “sneaking” drinks.
Could be part of withdrawal, although he you don’t describe him as an alcoholic. Giving up anything is hard if you enjoy it. Might be because he’s not well.
Avoid places where you usually drink alcohol, do something else instead of going to the pub. Remind him that women (you!) actually prefer to go home with someone sober, not a drunken, slobbering oaf (not suggesting he was one!). Better performance
Non-alcoholic beers have improved too…. A friend has also recently had to give up alcohol. Not easy… Good luck.
Just some obvious tips from me, try not to drink around him or discuss it, this will just make him miss it more and be upset. Find something you like doing and just go for it, e.g go the cinema and a nice dinner after, I guess this will help him take his mind off things and he can relax and spend time with you.
Moodiness part of withdrawal – Most likely, after being suddenly sapped of alcohol when use to a regular (ish) intake, his body will have to adapt. Just try to be as supportive as possible and listen to what he has to say, this way you’ll find what he is most angry/worried about and can adjust accordingly.
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This is probably because of the situation he’s going through. You don’t have to be a binge drinker to be an alcoholic, so it’s hard for me to tell because I don’t know him. It may be depression because his health is becoming bad and he can’t have a beer anymore. I would just support him and show him you care, the most you can do is stand by him through his tough times. That does more than you can imagine. Without you he’d probably get frustrated and drink anyways and worsen his health…
It’s rough. Do go to alanon in your area. Beware that they are hurting and it’s hard to come out of meetings with a positive outlook. Believe in the “take what you can use and leave the rest” expression. Give him space he needs, tell him you’re proud of him, let him know about positive effects this has had on him that you’ve noticed – this way he gets feedback. After being sober, alcoholics still have “dry drunk” spells. Learn about them and know when to distance yourself and not take it personally. Yes, moodiness is a part of the withdrawal. Make sure you do have a support system yourself however!
don’t say stupid sh it that’s gonna make him snap…?
Truth is if he truly liked you, cared for you, respected you then he would respect himself and look out for both of you.
If your gullable enough to stay with a person like this then thats your choice.
Am sorry but addicts need to be treated harshly in order to prevail and succeed. The more support you give to an addict the more they will abuse it and never change.
Addicts need to be left alone without support and then they will realise how hard life is, they will struggle to get food, struggle to get shelter, struggle to get any symtpathy, that is what changes people, that is when they realise they are at rock bottom. Trust me thats the only way.
I know your bf has got an illness like you said but many people around the world are living with illnesses, some have small amount of time to live, some struggle to lead a life, some struggle to have food, shelter, medicines etc but they still carry on with life, they still are postive, they still respect their loved ones.
You should not be so gullable and insecure to keep giving the support, you have to give him an alternative, either drink or you, or least tell him its the drink or your health. If he truly cares and is attracted to you in the sense of respect, love, loyality etc then he will listen and make an effort and not even snap at you.
Fact is we choose to do the things we do, we choose to feel the way we do, its either one tries to be strong or ones tries to be weak, what about people who resist tempation? who choose not to do drugs, not to drink alcohol? arent they humans? these are the people who succeed in life, am not saying only slim/skinny tall attractive healthy people have a pleasurable life and are strong minded but end of the day its all tempation and a test. Anyone can choose NOT to be an addict, it just a matter of realising that and using your brain and heart. We all are humans and all can do things what we want to if we put our minds and hearts to it. Its just about choice am afraid to say. Believe me in this, trust me in this.
1st, please be patient.
2nd, ty 4 even trying to stay with him through this.
3rd, consider this: after a detox period, will he be much different as a result of not drinking? sometimes when someone drinks regularly it can influence how they act so that you have a better impression of him/her when they have alcohol in them. often a regular/habitual drinker is self-medicating in a way and to them it works or at least is the best they can deal, so without the regular drinking there may arise something else to take it’s place like drugs, or the person may just become a /seemingly/ worse person for not having that destressing tool anymore. there’s more of course, but much of this covers the usual stuff i bet.
4th, seriously, i’d suggest smoking one ‘marijuana cigarette’ a day for withdrawals and continue as desired for mood elevating effects (assuming you don’t have significant lung issues). i realize this isn’t for everyone, and it is illegal, but some swear by it for this purpose and more. further, the government has confirmed in it’s own studies (that they initially concealed from the public) that this plant is safer than both tobacco and alcohol, yet those are legal and regulated by the government while providing special tax revenue. just think of the tax dollars the government could get if they legalized marijuana use and sold it the way they do liquor. plus, they’d save loads of $ on fighting it, as it would no longer be a crime. sorry, off topic and an imcomplete argument, but somewhat relevant if the smoking advice is considered.
5th, the most thoroughly learned lessons are learned the hardest ways. may both you and he come out the other side of this wiser.
*edit* sky64 has a great point. when i am struggling internally and my wife gives me that special lovin’ a bit extra it sure helps me, heh.
listen, Flayer, For the first thing the young man is and alcohol weather he wants to attmer or not. So if one of you or both of of you are quick to face this Head on ,and if that person is you, what every you do don’t LIE to him, or tell him what he wants to hear. That’s more like co-dependent ,and if you really care for him, the vary last thing you want to become his vary own C-D You would be enforcing more harm than good. Now sometimes when you are up against a vary uptuse and cl aver force, keep your power dry,and guns close,and thay are Truth,and tough love.