I don’t understand my guilt. I know why I broke up with my ex, but I feel awful. How do I get over this?
Okay, so my ex-boyfriend and I kept breaking up and getting back together with each other, arguing, losing trust, and it was getting so irritatingly obvious that this wasn’t working. It lasted 9 months until I decided to leave him. He’d come in to see me at work, hung over with a girl by his side (one he had said he’d ‘do’ if we broke up- I realise now this was true). I told him he smelt bad (meaning of alcohol, but left out that detail) so he ignored me for over a day. That’s when we broke off. AFTER I broke up with him, I found out that he had already been ‘seeing’ girls at parties behind my back and seemed ‘VERY CLOSE’ with them. And the day after I broke up with him, he started going out with this girl I referred to earlier. He made feel awful for the break up saying I was ‘jealous, obsessive, spiteful, deceitful, angry, and bitter’ and then said he still ‘loved’ me. It’s been a week since then. Should I feel guilty or wrong for breaking up with him? And how do I get over this??
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Please dont feel guilty as hard as it is i think you did the right thing. his pride is hurt which is why he is saying these things to make you feel bad. You deserve better than that. start believing you deserve someone who will treat you with respect and love because you do. hope this helps. spend time with friends this always helps x
There is an amazing ability on the part of children to figure out how problems in the family are their own fault. Many kids keep that ability as they get older–especially females. I know of no easy formula for changing one’s thinking but it’s clear that what your guy did was not your fault. There is nothing you could have done at all. How is it you believe this turkey when he calls black white?
I had a girlfriend and i broke up with her because of trust issues. The best info i can give you is to just try and forget about him. The world still moves and goes on when your sad. There plenty of people out there that are willing to open there heart up and truly be with somebody the rest of your life. If trust isnt in a relationship there cant be a relationship. Love is not the most important aspect in a relationship but honesty is.
I hope this helps you but can you go on my profile and try to answer my question i only have one open.
Easy question: MOVE ON and DON’T feel guilty. Sounds like a player who was oviously playing you with this other girl and who knows how many others. She’ll be next so feel good about that one. Just feel happy its over, your better off without this looser.
No you should not feel guilty, you did the right thing because if a relationship you know is not working for you , him or the both of you and you already tried making it work 2 or six times and there’s no progress, then its just time to part and take different paths. If he loved you then he wouldn’t of went behind your back like he did, the only reason why hes sour right now its because it didn’t go his way. So now you just continue on with your life and do what you have to do, don’t let him try to use sweet talk on you or those sorry excuses. Stick with the decision you made and you’ll see what a great choice you made later on.
No, you shouldn’t be feeling guilty.
Clearly, he has moved on and it simply means that he was never really into you. I’m saying this because if someone was really into you, it would take time for them to get over you. He seemed to have done it immediately with no trouble at all.
So stop thinking about him because he doesn’t deserve someone like you. You deserve a guy who would care just as much as you do and not just hook up with someone if things were going downhill.
THINK with your brain, NOT your emotions.
LOGICALLY, if he really felt you were a “jealous, obsessive, spiteful, deceitful, angry, and bitter” person, WHY would he “love” you? AND, why would YOU even talk to a person who accused you of such nasty things? THAT is LOVE??
IF, my boyfriend EVER came to my job under the influence of anything, that would be the end of it. If he EVER walked up to me with another girl – that too would end it. If he called me even HALF the things yours did, that would be it. This guy is a total disrespectful, manipulative, gaming playing, guilt tripping, loser.
You SHOULD be thankful you wised up and dumped him. NOW, forget this guy exists and move on with your life.
feel guilty about what? don’t you think he was seeing those same girls when he had you? my boyfriend and i was in the same situation and i broke it off with him 2 yrs ago and up to this day he still calls me telling me he want to get back together to make things work but i had enough courage to tell him no. Gitl dont ever go back keep going forward and find yourself a good man.