Need to know if this is possible and some advice?
My wife of 5 years and I have 1 child together. Our son is 3 years old. Shortly after his birth my wife began to drink often. About a year ago she became what I considered an alcoholic. She drank most every day and drank a lot. She was always drunk but when at work. She works evenings so she got drunk before work but not wasted and wasted when she got home.
After some big problems eg. driving drunk with our son and passing out when she was supposed to be watching him, I was at the end of my rope. I had a professional intervention done and put her into rehab for her health and for how she was behaving with our son and how she was treating me.
She was in rehab for 30 days and got out 2 weeks ago. The day before she got out of rehab she told me she had had sex in the parking lot with 2 different coworkers on 3 separate occasions over a 3 week period in March. One she had sex with once and the other twice right after she got off work for the night. My wife that I knew prior to alcohol would have never done such a thing. She told me this before getting out of rehab because she said the alcohol made her a monster and she wanted me to know so I could move on or forgive her and start anew life with her sober. She swears she will never drink again as it makes her a monster. She says if it was not for being an alcoholic that she would not have been in the state of mind of wanting to do anything to make herself feel better about herself. She says she would not like a person or think very highly of them if they behaved as she had…she swears she is not that person. In the last two weeks she has signed a post nuptial agreement in which she gets nothing if we get divorced…I get everything we acquire in the future including the house, cars and savings that we have now. She is trying to prove to me that she will never do such a thing again. She knows I am loyal and would never hurt her as she has done to me so she trusts me not to leave her and use it. She has returned to being a sweet caring wife but this could be because of guilt. Can alcohol really make a person a monster like this even when not drunk?
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YES!!! I used to to drink alot too and every time I did I became this whole different person! I would sleep with anyone and everyone! When I was sober I was Miss Prim and Proper! Give her a chance! She is willing to give you everything if she screws up…worth a shot!
Alcohol can have a lot of effects.
The key is. … do you love her/want to be with her?
If you love her then give her a second chance as what do you have to loose , she has nothing to gain in financial department . I hate people that blame alcohol for their behavior but there maybe something in it I don’t know.
You should call TBN for prayer for your wife, 888-731-1000
she is trying so hard and so are you yes the demon drink can make her doa lot of unconventional things you normally wouldnt do sober and it is another way of hating herself you have to understand this is going to be the hardest time of her life and yours and although she is trying hard giving up drink may not come easy shemay well have her slip backs and this will make her feel even worst as she knows herself what is atstake but she is an addict and unfortunately needs to be treated as one she obvoiusly really really loves her family as she is willing to give everything up bear with her i wish you so much luck in your situation and i pray you get through this for the sake of your son who in this situation of your wife drinking is not good for him
Alcohol changes people. My dad was an alcoholic, he did things when he was drunk that he wouldn’t do sober – they definitely do turn into monsters.
It sounds like she is trying very hard – it will be hard for her to stay on track, she will need support.
If you can forgive her, then give her another shot, but if not move on. Also beware of her slipping back into old habits