Shyness has been found to be genetic, can it be overcome? If so are there any meds that help?
Ive read, and been told by therapists that shyness is genetic. As a big believer in Genetic Determinism, i have concluded that i will never be able to overcome my shyness, just like most genetic disorders cant be cured or overcome. I don’t much are for therapists(too much mumbo jumbo, no hard science), and im crippled by shyness. So my question is, are there any meds out there that can help over come this? If so what? I used to take meds for anxiety and depression, but they didn’t do much to get rid of my shyness. Only thing that does is BOOZE, and im fine with that. But im curious, is there any other chemical out there, or pill that can treat shyness. Alcohol can be expensive, but its the only thing that works so far.
yay no good answer…:/
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Shyness IS genetic, and they have discovered the shyness gene. They would have found it a lot earlier, but it was hiding behind another gene.
I think it’s more of a matter of self image.
If the shyness is causing panic/anxiety attacks you can take beta blockers before a stressful event like a job interview or a verbal presentation/party or something and that should help.
While I’m sure shyness is in some way, even largely, genetic I don’t think it’s set in stone. I used to think I’d never change because shyness seemed like it was just woven right into my DNA but I’m living proof you can get past the worst of it. I used to not be able to even look people in the eye. I remember going an entire two weeks without saying a single word to anyone and nobody thinking that was abnormal because I used to speak so little. I’ll never be a mover and shaker but I have become much more comfortable talking to people I don’t know.
What worked for me was writing out a list of goals to get over being shy. Put the easiest thing at the bottom. This could just be something really, really simple but it’s still a goal. Put the thing you’re dying to do but are prevented from doing because of your shyness at the top of the list. Gradually move up through all the things, repeating each until they become so routine that they just can’t scare you anymore.
I know drinking helps a lot for this when at a party or something, but it does make things worse in the long run. Believe me, been there, done that, bought the t-shirt.
To overcome it is just to get out with people and get to know them, trust others and talk to them. Life experiences will make you more sure of yourself so get out in the world and live.