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Question by agactual: Random Feelings of Guilt During Alcohol Withdrawals?
I recently decided that i wanted to stop drinking for awhile. I would typically have 2 or 3 drinks a night, maybe 6 nights a week.

I haven’t had anything to drink in a few days and there are some minor withdrawal symptoms, mostly fidgeting, a little bit of anxiety, and insomnia. However, i also keep getting strange flashes of guilt. I will be sitting there and then for about 10 seconds, i will feel really guilty and then it will pass. It isn’t about anything particular, it is just random and it goes away as quickly as it comes.

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I feel so guilty? Should I?

OK.  My fiancé is 23 and I’m 22.  We’ve been together since our teenage years and I really love him.  On another note, I had a bff in high school  and we were best friends since 6th grade.  Then in 11th grade, she became convinced I was a liar trying to sabotage her life and stopped talking to me.  The whole thing makes me sad to this day brcause I really loved her like a sister.  We were like family.  But then, after being depressed, I met my now fiancé, who apparently she liked and then hated me more than ever.  Anyway, a few days ago we got in a huge fight and he went home.  I don’t even remember what it was about.  But that morning I went to his place to apologize and I saw him laying in bed, naked with my ex-bff from high school!  I thought he had slept with her.  She was laying all over him and had this ” what are you going to do?” bitch look on her face.  He looked like he had a hangover and kept saying “baby, Im so sorry. I love you.”  I felt so betrayed.  I thought he loved me.  I wanted to be a virgin till marriage and I thought he was OK with no sex.  He wouldnt even get up to follow me and at least make an effort.  I yelled at them and started to cry and left.  Later that night, his best friend called me and told me my fiancé was in the hospital.  It was because he had a bad reaction to RUFALIN and some paralytic drug.  Apparently, she drugged him and he might die.  Also, she carved her name with a knife over a tattoo he had gotten for me and it caused him to bleed a lot.  She had put the drugs in his alcohol [he sometimes has a drink when he's is really sad] so the drugs mixed with the liquor making it worse.  When he came home, he had a drink and passed out.  I blamed him and I feel so guilty.  The doctor said that if someone had gotten to him sooner, he might have a better chance.  He didn’t get to the doctor till that night.  I had been there that morning.  I’m going to press charges, if I can.  I’m not sure I’ll be able to because we’re not married.  I don’t want him to die.  If it hadn’t been for me, none of this would have happened.  How couldn’t I see he was dying right there?  The cops know and they’re looking for her.  If he survives, what should I tell him?  What do I say if he wakes up at all?
She must have carved his skin after I left because he was not bleeding when I was at his place. He was just out of it. I just thought he had drunken sex with her. He didn’t though because he was unconscious.
I didn’t word my Q very good. We haven’t been friends since high school bc she hates me.
I didn’t word my Q very good. We haven’t been friends since high school bc she hates me.

I drank my first alcohol today. and I had always told God I wouldnt. I just, I feel SO guilty now, its the biggest regret of my life. And I have apoligzed and honstely whole heartdly asked for forgivness. but i still feel guilty. why? and how can I get rid of the guilt feeling?
Ok, I understand that Jesus and his apostles drank wine, but wine back then was pretty much equivalent to grape juice now.
and i wasnt “brainwashed” or whatever. I just know if I got into it I’d get addicted, thats why I promised him i would never drink it. And i made that promise on my own time and was NOT forced too.

I had a miscarriage this summer. My son was born still. When I found out that I was pregnant I was a pack a day smoker. I tried and tried but couldn’t seem to completely quit. I was down to smoking 1-5 a day. I ended up having a placental abruption which caused the miscarriage.

There are several reasons these happen, genetics, hypertension, maternal age, abdominal trauma, previous history of abruptions, multiple births, and substance abuse like smoking, drugs, or alcohol.

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My wife and I were having lots of problems and we split up for a while and I got to talking to her very best friend in the world and long story short we ended up having four sexual encounters. My wife and I got back together after a lot of work and things are going very great. Three weeks ago her friend died from alcohol poisoning and its been hard on everyone but I have this guilt and scared to say anything after what we went through and do not want to go through again I want to keep my wife. Not sure what will happen if I say anything but not sure I can carry this guilt around forever. What do I do?

Okay, so my ex-boyfriend and I kept breaking up and getting back together with each other, arguing, losing trust, and it was getting so irritatingly obvious that this wasn’t working. It lasted 9 months until I decided to leave him. He’d come in to see me at work, hung over with a girl by his side (one he had said he’d ‘do’ if we broke up- I realise now this was true). I told him he smelt bad (meaning of alcohol, but left out that detail) so he ignored me for over a day. That’s when we broke off. AFTER I broke up with him, I found out that he had already been ‘seeing’ girls at parties behind my back and seemed ‘VERY CLOSE’ with them. And the day after I broke up with him, he started going out with this girl I referred to earlier. He made feel awful for the break up saying I was ‘jealous, obsessive, spiteful, deceitful, angry, and bitter’ and then said he still ‘loved’ me. It’s been a week since then. Should I feel guilty or wrong for breaking up with him? And how do I get over this??

My oldest is 27,his brother 25. They both live away from me separately.I live 135 miles away .but visit the home town often because I have a daughter also,with a grand daughter I am very close to.I have given the boys so many chances to get their acts together since they were 17. Stood by them while in prison,homeless ,you name it.I had let them move back in so many times. Now the oldest has his own child,he has custody of her but does not do it well. It was a better choice than leaving the child with her mother who is more unstable than my son. My grand daughter appears to be Autistic,through everyone pushing him,he has done minimal things.But still denies that there is something wrong.He never raised a child,what does he know. I can’t be in his life and watch how he handles things and the child,who I hardly have any relationship with because he stayed away while he was with the mother. My 2nd son is an alcoholic.
He lives back with his father who has also been in prison due to his drinking,they have made nothing of their lives.They live with the grandmother who is disabled,treat her terrible,they have no respect for woman. I have no room in my life for alcohol abuse and I won’t tolerate it. BUTTTT…….it doesn’t stop it from hurting every day ,knowing the
relationship that I am missing out on. How can I cope with these daily feelings better? Thanks
In response to “I am Phoenix” ,I ahve done that route along time ago.That is how I made it through dealing with the father 10 years ago. All the actions are out of my hands now,they are grown and not even living in the same county near me. This is about me now.

I work at an office with many hot asian ladies. this one really hot asian lady (28 years old) and i had to stay overtime alone, but her cubicle is far form me. she came over to ask for staples and i made small talk. i had some alcohol in my bag and asked if she wanted some b/c it would be a long night of paperwork and she might need it to rid her stress. she said ok and drank more than i expected.

she asked me to go to the lobby room which has a couch. i talked her into getting closer to me, then i rubbed her back and neck. she moaned like she liked it…so i went ahead and removed her clothing, felt on her perfect circular asian breasts and did my thing from there.

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=( she was my best friend, I wanted to hang out with her more than the guys. We were HS class couple, dated for 3 years and broke up last year. You cant deny the chemistry between us, so the few time we’ve seen eachother since parting ways has made it worse trying to move on. (she didnt want to change me, so her not wanting to be around the party scene [pot and alcohol], drove her farther away from me.) Realizing bad habits, Ive cleaned up and gotten back into College but still think about her a lot. She wants to be just friends for now and go from there, but I cant do it. As much as I enjoy the idea of being buddies I cant just be her friend, because in reality that’s a form of torture Im not willing to participate in. I’ve got the wrong mind set, its horrible. When I do meet girls at school/work my expectations arent met, because “that” girl made the standards so high to top.